Relationship and family support
For adults working through what is happening with a partner, a parent, a grown child, or the people they share a home with.
By secure video, anywhere in Oregon
The people closest to us can bring the most comfort and the most pain, sometimes in the same week. I work with adults on the relationships that are weighing on them, on your own or together with a partner or family members: how you communicate, where the old patterns come from, and what you want to do differently.
What it can help with
- Conversations that keep turning into arguments
- Distance or disconnection from a partner
- Tension with parents, siblings, or adult children
- Setting boundaries without cutting people off
- Blended families and changing roles at home
- Family history that still shows up in how you relate to people
How I work
I draw on family systems thinking: every relationship has patterns, and each person has a part in them. We look at your side, the part you can change, without putting all of it on you. I'll help you notice what happens in the moment a conversation goes wrong, and we'll practice new ways to respond. Most weeks you'll leave with something concrete to try at home.
If faith shapes how you think about marriage and family, we can bring that in. I won't assume it does.
What a session is like
You bring what happened since we last met, and we slow it down together: what was said, what you felt, what you wish had happened instead.
Questions people ask
Can my partner or a family member come to sessions?
Yes. I see adults on their own, as couples, and as families. We can talk through which fits what you are working on.
What if the other person won't change?
You can only change your own part, and that often shifts more than people expect. We also work on how to look after yourself when the other person stays the same.
Do you work with children or teens?
No. I see adults 18 and older.
Book a first session
Call or email me with a good time to reach you, or see the ways to book.
Other ways I help
- Individual therapyOne hour that belongs to you. We start with what brought you in and go at the pace you set.
- Anxiety and depressionFor the worry that wakes you at three in the morning and the heaviness that makes ordinary days hard to start.
- Trauma and transitionsLoss, a hard season, a move, a diagnosis, a change you didn't choose. Making sense of what happened and finding your footing after it.
- Faith-based guidanceIf your faith is part of how you understand your life, it can be part of how we work. Scripture and prayer come in only if you ask for them.
- Personal growthNot every reason to see a counselor is a crisis. Sometimes you're ready to understand yourself better and grow on purpose.