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Questions people ask

The questions people ask most, in one place. If yours isn't here, call or email me and ask.

Getting started

Do you meet in person?

No. Sessions are by secure video, so you can join from anywhere in Oregon. The practice is based in Eugene.

How do I get started?

Call or email me. The first step is a free 15-minute phone consultation: you tell me what is going on, I tell you honestly whether I am the right fit, and we go from there.

What does a session cost, and do you take my insurance?

A session is $185. I'm in network with the Oregon Health Plan (OHP), and I offer a sliding scale if cost is a barrier. You can also ask for a Good Faith Estimate before your first session.

Is counseling an emergency service?

No. If you are thinking about suicide or are in danger, call or text 988, the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, any time. For an emergency, call 911.

Individual therapy

Do I need to know what to say in the first session?

No. Plenty of people start with "I'm not sure where to begin," and that's a fine place to start. I'll ask questions to help us find the thread.

How often will we meet?

We decide that together. Some people come weekly, others less often, and the rhythm can change as things shift.

Is what I say confidential?

Yes, with a few exceptions the law requires, such as a serious risk of harm to you or someone else. I'll explain them plainly before we begin.

Who do you see?

Adults 18 and older, anywhere in Oregon. Sessions are by secure video, and the practice is based in Eugene.

Relationships and family

Can my partner or a family member come to sessions?

Yes. I see adults on their own, as couples, and as families. We can talk through which fits what you are working on.

What if the other person won't change?

You can only change your own part, and that often shifts more than people expect. We also work on how to look after yourself when the other person stays the same.

Do you work with children or teens?

No. I see adults 18 and older.

Anxiety and depression

How do I know if it's anxiety or just stress?

Stress usually eases when the pressure lifts. Anxiety tends to hang around, or shows up without a clear reason. You don't need to sort that out before you call. We can figure it out together.

Do you prescribe medication?

No. I'm a counselor, not a prescriber. If medication might help, we can talk about seeing a doctor or a psychiatric provider.

What if I'm having thoughts of suicide?

Please call or text 988 now, any time of day or night. If you're in immediate danger, call 911. Counseling is ongoing support and isn't an emergency service.

Trauma and transitions

Do I have to talk about the details of what happened?

No. You're in charge of what you share and when. We can do meaningful work without going through every detail.

Is it trauma if nothing "big" happened?

Trauma isn't measured by how an event looks from the outside. If something still affects how you feel, sleep, or relate to people, it's worth talking about.

My life changed and I don't know why I'm struggling. Is that normal?

Very. Even changes we wanted can bring loss with them. Counseling is a good place to make sense of that.

Faith-based guidance

Do I have to be a Christian to see you?

No. I see people of any faith and of none. Faith comes into our work only if you want it to.

Will you tell me what to believe?

No. My job is to help with what you are facing, in a way that respects what you already believe.

Is this the same as pastoral counseling?

No. I'm a Licensed Professional Counselor, so this is clinical counseling, with faith included when you want it. It doesn't replace your pastor or your faith community, and it can work alongside them.

Personal growth

Do I need a problem to come to counseling?

No. Wanting to grow is reason enough.

How is this different from coaching?

I'm a licensed counselor, so if deeper hurts come up along the way, we can work with them instead of setting them aside.

How long does this kind of work take?

It varies. We set goals together and check in on them, and you decide when you've gotten what you came for.

Still have a question?

Call or email me and ask. A good time to reach you is all I need.